God called me into the mental health community 6 years ago now as I am reading this again. I had no idea how hard it was going to be. It has been a difficult journey and still is. I have heard all sorts of heart breaking stories where people were treated with such disdain, I was introduced with the court system twice. I participated in psycho therapy, graduated from a in-patient therapy program twice.
I'm still getting parenting help from a parenting coach. I have been learning new techniques with peaceful parenting that connects with my kids! I love it! Empathy I learned is key! I’ve noticed a shift in my home that I am excited to see! It’s such a relief when you feel at home with the way you are responding to the people in your life!
We do the work, we take the medications, we take a look at our pasts, and we receive parenting help. We have to hear the stigmas and live in a way where we don't live up to the societal norm. But I think the best thing we can do is, provide a different legacy for ourselves and families.
The cycle of abuse ends with us! We do not have to parent the way we were parented. I couldn't imagine Nathan or Joshy treating a woman harshly or their future children. Nathan opens doors for strangers, asked to marry me, 😂 gives back massages to his girl friends and me! Joshy smiles and giggles and we can’t resist but laugh along with him!
My boys are my legacy! I want them to have a legacy they are fond of passing on their future families! I would love date nights to continue, meals together as a family, and family fort movie nights! I want them to take delight in their kiddos and families God brings before them! It all starts in the home. We are our children’s first and most important teachers! They want so much to learn from us, play, be silly, snuggle, wrestle and talk with us! They are little explorers and they love it when we join them in their adventures!
Let me just be honest about something that’s painful to hear. Abusers and oppressors say things we would never think of repeating to our loved ones. The truth is abusers and oppressors operate under a false pretense of true power. We know the only true source of Power is through Jesus! But for a time they take our power from us.
For a while they can succeed but when we rise up and declare enough, we get out of tragic situations and become stronger not weaker. We begin to see the true power they thought they had over us was really inside of us all along. We find out who we were always meant to be. We think of the lives that are following ours and what their future will look like and we step away, then we start to sprint and soon we are full on jogging!
We do the work, we take the medications, we take a look at our pasts, and we receive parenting help. We have to hear the stigmas and live in a way where we don't live up to the societal norm. But I think the best thing we can do is, provide a different legacy for ourselves and families.
The cycle of abuse ends with us! We do not have to parent the way we were parented. I couldn't imagine Nathan or Joshy treating a woman harshly or their future children. Nathan opens doors for strangers, asked to marry me, 😂 gives back massages to his girl friends and me! Joshy smiles and giggles and we can’t resist but laugh along with him!
My boys are my legacy! I want them to have a legacy they are fond of passing on their future families! I would love date nights to continue, meals together as a family, and family fort movie nights! I want them to take delight in their kiddos and families God brings before them! It all starts in the home. We are our children’s first and most important teachers! They want so much to learn from us, play, be silly, snuggle, wrestle and talk with us! They are little explorers and they love it when we join them in their adventures!
Let me just be honest about something that’s painful to hear. Abusers and oppressors say things we would never think of repeating to our loved ones. The truth is abusers and oppressors operate under a false pretense of true power. We know the only true source of Power is through Jesus! But for a time they take our power from us.
For a while they can succeed but when we rise up and declare enough, we get out of tragic situations and become stronger not weaker. We begin to see the true power they thought they had over us was really inside of us all along. We find out who we were always meant to be. We think of the lives that are following ours and what their future will look like and we step away, then we start to sprint and soon we are full on jogging!
Then we pick up the pace and start training for a marathon. “Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize. Everyone who goes into the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever.”1 Corinthians 9:24-25(NIV) What is the prize? Eternity with Jesus and all of those that fought the good fight and have come out the other side! They changed the outcome of the hand they were dealt all the while they get stronger with each step!
We were never born to be oppressed and abused. We were born for greatness. Join me in the race friends! Parents with an abuse story let's rise together into our new lives!! Walk step by step with Jesus and then meet me on the race track!!
We truly are the brave ones, we help our kids choose what they want to be and what they don't. We are on the hook for obedience God is on the hook for results!
If you are being oppressed or abused or have an abuse story in anyway I am so sorry and I am so proud of you for keeping in the fight to a better life for your family! My prayers and love are with you!
Here's to my Heroes!! You are the brave ones! Never let anyone tell you otherwise! Lift your face everyone and gaze into the eyes of our King! He is waiting ever so patiently for you to bring your hurt and fears to Him! He longs to bring you home!
Love you with all my Heart!
Tina Martina Putney
Here’s a song to get your race going!!!
https://youtu.be/HgknAaKNaMM
We were never born to be oppressed and abused. We were born for greatness. Join me in the race friends! Parents with an abuse story let's rise together into our new lives!! Walk step by step with Jesus and then meet me on the race track!!
We truly are the brave ones, we help our kids choose what they want to be and what they don't. We are on the hook for obedience God is on the hook for results!
If you are being oppressed or abused or have an abuse story in anyway I am so sorry and I am so proud of you for keeping in the fight to a better life for your family! My prayers and love are with you!
Here's to my Heroes!! You are the brave ones! Never let anyone tell you otherwise! Lift your face everyone and gaze into the eyes of our King! He is waiting ever so patiently for you to bring your hurt and fears to Him! He longs to bring you home!
Love you with all my Heart!
Tina Martina Putney
Here’s a song to get your race going!!!
https://youtu.be/HgknAaKNaMM
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